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- Pastor Bisi Adewale
(Family Booster Ministries international)
As a full time family minister, author of more than fifty books on marriage, parenting and family life, owner of the first marriage school in Africa, Marriage counsellor, called to build homes and restore family life, I have put many years in fruitful labour behind me into building homes without running any Church.
Giving this level of involvement in family restoration, sustenance and repair, it always gives me pains when I hear about turbulent marriages, separation or divorce, especially when it concerns high profile individuals like Pastor Chris Oyakhilome and Anita his wife.
Till now I have held back my comments on this matter on the internet and decided not to say anything about it in the papers. But my encounter with a young man who wanted to go ahead and divorce his wife changed my stand. The young man said, “If Pastor Chris can do it, it is not wrong after all.” Hence, I think it is better to talk, strengthened by the saying of one wise man. He said, “Evil will reign not because of the noise of evil men, but by the silence of good men.” Who knows? This counsel I’m about to give may help somebody, or heal a home.
I want all readers of this piece to note that I am neither judging nor taking side with either of the couple. It is a straight counsel as I address different set of people.

To those of you out there, rejoicing over this case, thinking it is all over, you will not laugh last. Mocking crowd and panel of judges, why do you rejoice at halftime into the ‘match’? It is not yet over. The God of restoration will step in through the prayers of the saints. It is only in the Lord’s army that soldiers rejoice when a comrade falls or gets wounded at the battle front. In other instances soldiers protect, carry, defend and help fallen comrades. Stop rejoicing over them; pray instead, and the situation will not continue like this.
I am not a fan of Pastor Chris. In fact, I do not agree with many of his teachings. But in this case I pray both parties come to their senses and allow the scripture to prevail. Let them stop playing God and humble themselves, because I perceive both are still riding their high horses. Attacking and counter- attacking each other as if they’ve never been friends or lovers before.

It is time to pray. If you are doing that already, don’t stop until the battle is won. God must restore Pastors Chris and Anita into their old love and bring new wine into their marriage. So, join me and my wife let us pray for them. You may not even like them; you may not have a stake in their lives or have anything to do with them or their ministry, but let’s do it for them as comrades. Let’s do it for their innocent children who will bear the brunt. You know when two elephants fight, the grass suffers. Let’s do it for the kingdom and let do it for the feeble ones who may emulate their indiscretion you will be rewarded for it.

To all Brethren and Pastors in Christ Embassy and beyond that have been taken sides, supporting either Pastor Chris or Anita, you are wrong. In every marital dispute nobody is guiltless. A Chinese proverb says, “If the wife is wrong, the husband can never be guiltless.” So, stop supporting any one of them; rather, be on the side of their marriage and their children who, am told are really hurting and angry. Stop painting Anita as a devil. If she is a devil, what will you call Pastor Chris? It take devil to marry a Devil, Whatever a wife is perfectly describes her husband. They are one body. So, stop writing negative comments on the net; just begin to pray for them so that God can remove the covering on their faces, that they may come to the light of truth (as it happened in the case of Benny Hinn) and save the destiny of millions of souls attached to theirs.

I was somewhere recently; there I heard the news about a young couple who were ready to divorce, saying it is not bad if Pastor Chris that they respect and see as a model could be going through it. To many of you in similar situations, whose faith is shaking because of this messy divorce case, please remember that you never gave your life to Pastor Chris but to Jesus. Pastor Chris never died for you, but Jesus did. The Bible is not the word of Pastor Chris; it is the word of God and God will not change it because of this issue. The truth still remains the same, that God hates divorce. Culture can change, men may turn around, but the word of the Lord remains the same.
Don’t put your faith in man. Let it be on the word of God. The truth is the best man no matter how strong or anointed he is, is still a man. The fact that a man is anointed does not shield him from marital crisis, Marriage is not built by anointing, and it is built by knowledge, understanding and wisdom. (Proverbs 24:3-7) That is why we have many anointed pastors who are also wife beaters. When any man or woman falls short of the principles of marriage, no matter how rich, famous, anointed, and wise they are they get their finger burnt. That is what happens in cases like this. So keep your focus on God.

Ma, you may think you have all the reasons to quit your marriage. But then you know “quitters never win and winners never quit” I am not aware of any efforts you have made before now, to get your husband’s attention on certain things, but you need to do more and pray. You are a woman of faith. Remember the title of the book you wrote years back titled: DONT PACK YOUR BAG YET, sister why are you packing yours now, do you think God made you to write that book in error, Know the message is actually for you. SISTER, DIVORCE IS NOT THE OPTION. Somebody said “divorce is a stupid answer to a difficult question” Clarifying this statement, he said, “It is like cutting your leg because you have a sore in it, or your head because of a severe headache.” So, check where you have fallen and rise; withdraw the case and become a good example to millions that call you Mother, biological and spiritual.

Please, note that divorce is worse than the death of a partner. When a partner dies, he is buried. But in divorce you must live with the ‘buried’ partner. You will still meet, more so since you have children. Your lawyer may be happy he is smiling to the bank, and the devil too, he is happy to make your home join the statistics, don’t permit him now. We who are lovers of families, including yours are very sad and worried, because of the effect this will have in the life and marriage of millions of young ones. Many will certainly be affected and possibly fall out of faith should you take this case to a definite conclusion. And will God be happy about this? Your children are not happy, already. People that have genuine love for you and your husband are very sad indeed. Please, put the devil to shame. Don’t take this case to a certain conclusion. I advise you get my book entitled Fight for that marriage on Amazon. I believe it will greatly be of help.

With due respects Sir; permit me to speak as a man called into building marriage and restoring home. Definitely, I will not write this without utmost respect for you and what you have achieved in life and ministry. You are endowed with great anointing, your delivery is unique, your organizational skill is excellent, your follower ship is in millions, you are a man that enjoys unique grace, and blessing of the lord. But sir, their is a missing link, so, I will say the truth. Perhaps, it may help you. I read in the papers that your wife has been living alone in London since 1999. You know it is contrary to the scripture if it true, if this is the truth you know this is the foundation of this issue. Why are you married and still live alone, sir it is unscriptural no matter how we want to explain it.
And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him ( Genesis 2:18)
You were quoted in the papers to have said that Pastor Anita is not a Woman of God. I believe you were misquoted. You know she is a Woman of God, because you know she stood by you, making the church in UK what it is today. A woman of the devil cannot do that.
You said she was deceived by wrong counsellors. You may be right there. Pastor Sister Anita truly might have some faults. But you might have aided them by leaving her alone in your Garden of Eden while you are “dressing and keeping” your own ministry and allowing the serpent to deceive her. You are Adam. Where have you been?
You know leaving her and your two daughters in the UK while you continue the work of God around the world makes her a single parent. You have been an absentee Father, Money and toys can never replace you in the life of those Children. Living away from your wife gives room for many things including suspicion, temptation (except you are an angel) and frustration for her, remember she is a woman. Before God and his judgment throne, you know this might have been leading to many struggles in you (to use a mild word) as far as sexual temptation is concerned, if you’ve fallen into it with all these glittering and willing ladies around you must be an angel without wings.
Please, in the name of God and for the protection of the generation yet unborn in Christendom, humble yourself in the sight of God and go back to your wife. She is lovely and beautiful, the mother of your lovely daughters (who are really hurting now and confused). Bring back your wife; bring her down to you in South Africa. No woman will love staying alone. More so when the Bible says “and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee (Genesis3:16 KJV) Removing her names and pictures from Ministry website and Rhapsody of Realities will not solve any problem.
Pastor sir, go back to your wife, start your global ministry at home, restore joy in to your home, make the kingdom of God happy, please remember, Jesus is still coming back and we are going to give account to God in Heaven where you will not be able to push the blame to her, where “touch not my anointed” will no more be at work, but the judgment of God.
Also let all wives in your ministry return to wherever their Husbands are, rebuild the fabric of Family life in the Church starting from your home Sir, this Divorce must not take place, remember millions will fall,many home will fail and are already falling because of this case.

Fellow Men of God are you learning anything from this, those of you that are already married to the ‘wife’ of Jesus (the Church) foolishly abandoning your own wife and Children, moving around the world, are you learning anything? If this can happen to Living trees, dry trees should be careful.
A whole lot of our Pastors, Bishops, and Evangelists are in the same shoes, abandoning their wives, mentoring the world, damaging their homes. Sirs, your first mission field is your home IF YOU LOSE AT HOME, YOU HAVE LOST INDEED.
Recent statistics shows that 85% of Pastor Wives are hurting, many Pastors are not good at home, Pastor in Church, Rascal at home. Deacon in Church, Dragon at home, Many pastor wives do not have somebody to talk to, so they are dying in Silence, they are suffering and laughing. The church expect too much from them, their husbands are far away from them, loneliness is killing them, they are been pushed to the wall, what a life.
Dear anointed Men of God, get back home, build your ministry from home, we don’t want to witness evil headlines like this again and make the kingdom of devil rejoice because of our Mistakes and carelessness. Build your ministry from home. Let your slogan be: FAMILY FIRST.

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Date: 30th November 2014. Time: 2;30pm
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